How to be a lady

In the past women had quite a tough time because of all the things they were forbidden in order to be called a lady. Nowadays we no longer have to wear huge dresses, wigs and white gloves and are no longer afraid to remain alone in the same room with a man. Still, that doesn’t mean that there are no more rules to follow. Any woman knows that her every move is watched closely both by men and the other women. Of course, malicious comments are part of every successful person’s life. But some of them are justified, so why not make a few changes in order no to be tagged?

The first impression

It’s impossible for everyone to get to know you just the way you are and this is why creating a favorable impression from the first time you meet someone is very important. Build your image just the way you want it to be and explore. Use your imagination and create the style that suits you: elegant, natural, glamorous, it’s your choice. Your clothes should reflect your personality but should be appropriate for a certain situation (sorry, no t-shirts with your favorite band at work!). And there also some big DON’T’s:

wearing a huge cleavage at work or transparent blouses will create unpleasant situations and will not make the best impression ever. There are many possibilities like choosing other colours than white and black, or just some unusual designs. Choose that instead of making such an error.

Too much silver or golden fabric, glitter or all these combined is something that should really disappear. On some occasions they can definitely be taken into consideration, but not when going to do the groceries.

Too much love for rainbows: orange, yellow and green, not good on the same time. Colours are great, but when choosing what you want to wear be sure people will not look at you twice or make photos. It may not be for a fashion magazine.

Really tight clothes– it can be frustrating to try something on and see it’s not the most comfortable thing ever. Still, don’t be afraid to ask for a bigger size, feel good and look good at the same time as a blouse that seems ready to explode will not bring you many compliments. Don’t buy smaller clothes hoping that in time they will be just right. Choose what fits you!

-Heavy metal– three bracelets, a necklace with a big medallion a golden purse, a few rings and of course, golden shoes and earrings, maybe even a broche. Or maybe not. Accessories are usually worn to make the way you look more interesting not to reflect the sun so just choose a few. There is enough time to wear everything you have.

Is it a peacock? When choosing your make up try to keep it natural for work and usually during your daily activities. You can wear vibrating colours at parties or when going to clubs. Don’t give everyone a reason to giggle! In the end it’s a matter of respecting yourself. Demand for respect by acting the right way.

Behavior

A lady knows what to do in most situations, and if not she doesn’t make a tragedy out of everything and knows how to transforms any drawback into an advantage. This kind of woman knows when to attract attention and when to stay in shadow, masters the art of conversation and can easily handle a discussion. Does it look difficult? It’s not like that at all. It’s just a matter of will after all; of course, here are some more don’ts:

Have you heard that? Gossip: it’s there, everywhere, can’t fight it. And of course, talking about others is something we cannot avoid. However, discuss some things only with close friends or family members; if someone wants to share a secret than let it be a secret! Nothing can create a worse impression than talking behind everyone’s back!

You’re just saying that…! When receiving compliments don’t deny the fact, but accept them, smile and thank. A lady knows what her qualities are and is sure of herself.

What time is it? A lady will always arrive on time, no matter if it’s a business meeting, a movie night with friends or if she’s waiting for someone at the train station. You may be forgiven the first and maybe the second time but then the others will start to be annoyed by this habit. And then, it’s quite hard to find a very good excuse every time you are late for work!

-Let me tell you something… don’t shout on the street, laugh noisily and when you have to talk on the phone leave the group for a few moments. When going to a formal reunion, theatre, opera, turn off your phone in order not to interrupt everyone else. If you are not familiar with a subject, don’t just give your opinion without knowing the situation. It’s not a shame not to know everything! Saying this is much better than saying something really stupid that will make everyone look at each other ready to burst into laughter.

Thank God I got away from him! It’s not a very good idea to talk about your failed relationships and your partner’s defects with everyone. Keeping your private life private is good for both you and the others. Firstly, maybe not quite everyone is really interested in how your ex acted on dates and secondly you may not want to expose yourself very much. Explain the situation briefly and that should be enough.

How I hate her! In order to create a good image of yourself, try not to show all your feelings. When succeeding, show a moderate joy even if it’s the greatest thing ever.

When you feel envious (it happens) try not to show it. Don’t give satisfaction to others and don’t be rude. Don’t promote yourself aggressively, by handling the things the right way you will definitely attract the attention you deserve!

7 role models from the animal world

The shallowness of the world can bring discouragement and frustration to many. Not succeeding or just finding it difficult to have a purpose in life can easily bring you down. You’re looking for ideas. Most role models prove to be exactly the opposite of what they claim to be, so where is the key? Maybe looking just a little further may give you the necessary impulse. Discover new values within yourself!

1. ELEPHANT

Elephants are known to live in groups which are lead by an elder female. The babies are practically raised together with no discrimination and if one of them hurts his or her leg for example the whole group will walk slower with no complaints. Elephant families are also famous for adopting lost or orphan babies and especially for returning to their old cemeteries.

Family- Most of us consider it to be the most important value of all but not everyone actually takes this idea further. A stressful, time-consuming job, some new prospects, the lack of time, the competition… Family life has changed in the last years quite dramatically especially in the powerfully industrialized cities. Many young people even refuse to start their own family for the reasons mentioned above. But is it all worth the effort? Neglecting your family can have severe effects for everyone involved especially from a psychological point of view. With a little respect, affection and…time just for a short visit or a phone call you can get rid of depression, loneliness and sadness also bringing joy to the ones you care about. Also married people are known to live more and they are more likely to have a stable life. Give it a second thought! It’s not necessarily about legalizing but about offering and receiving affection!

2. DOG

Dogs can create remarkable bonds with their human masters which seem to pass beyond the instinct limit as many times dogs endangered their lives to save someone. There are numerous cases when faithful dogs returned to their owners after traveling hundreds and hundreds of miles or when the death of the master meant the end of the animal as well.

Friendship-next to family is considered one of the most important elements in one’s life as these relationships influence practically every life aspect: spare time, work, way of thinking, the choices to make. Investing in friendship is highly beneficial, of course when the other person does just the same. A lasting friendship brings the best out of someone as it involves deep affection, the unique opportunity to confide without a care, to receive advice from another point of view and also to feel safe and relaxed. Many people all around the world claim to feel alone most of the time but this happens ion most cases because today’s lifestyle can easily affect one’s social skills and even desire to bond. However, investing in what you have or just discovering the ones around you will bring you more benefits than just some time spent in front of the PC.

3. ALBATROSS

The albatross is a sea bird which is known to live as much as 50 years which is remarkable for a bird. But what is the most remarkable is the fact that these birds are monogamous which made them a symbol for sailors traveling far away.

Fidelity- a subject all like to joke about but few actually prefer to take it seriously. We’ve all heard stories from the tragic ones to the most hilarious but the reality behind them may not be as entertaining. Usually in these situations this is a sign that the couple has a serious problem which is definitely not solved the right way. Infidelity is a source of distress for everyone involved leading to negative psychological effects such as guilt, underestimating, frustration, lack of confidence in anyone, adaptation problems. It’s always been there and will probably never disappear. However, putting fidelity behind a glass and calling it unreachable is not where we want to be.

4. PUFFIN

Puffins are sea birds which lay their eggs on cliffs in order not to be eaten by predators. However, when the babies hatch they prepare for a long journey to the beach. When the time comes to follow their parents, they jump from a remarkable height, most of them arriving safe on the beach.

Courage- Desiring is human…but daring? Taking a decision, most of the times risky, is something many would not rather do. Asking for a raise, leaving home for a college abroad, talking about your feelings- not easy. But the torment of deciding what to do is nothing compared to the regret of missing a once in a lifetime opportunity because of fear. We hear of people who could have done so much and so well but were afraid, everyday. The ones who take the tough decisions are on the front page of the newspapers. So when you truly have a feeling that this may be the right decision, analyze the situation (making quick decisions without thinking is not the best thing to do) take a deep breath and go for it. It may be the right thing.

5. SALMON

Salmon

Salmons travel thousands and thousands of miles to get to the rivers they began their lives in. Many never reach their goal, but the ones who do offer the new generation the chance to make the same journey.

Perseverance- Once you’ve made the decision don’t give up on it immediately because of a reason or another! People giving up is a problem maybe not many take into consideration when they should. Many things, some very important remain unfinished just because giving up seems a very attractive alternative. Continuous effort is however the key in many cases as luck rarely strikes. Leaving behind the idea, value or impulse is what causes these things to happen. A few difficulties, some bad comments and it’s hard to go on. And still what if others gave up on their dreams or plans? Would the world still be the same now? Of course, being a Don Quixote is something totally undesirable. Be sure that it’s worth fighting for!

6. Wolf

Wolves are strong and resistant animals, being able to hunt various types of prey. However, a wolf knows that hunting in packs is the key towards reaching a bigger lunch. When hunting together, wolves can even kill a 500 kilo-moose, which is 10 times bigger than any of them and capable of putting tremendous fight.

Teamwork – Trusting your own powers and involving in various activities is something everyone is recommended to do. But only to rely on yourself may not be the best solution. More heads means more ideas. Of course, it’s normal to want to achieve glory and maximum of results by yourself; however, history was rarely changed by just a person, there were definitely others by his or her side. Jealousy can also be there. Still, working like this will show you that you cannot be the best at everything but that collective effort is the key to the problem. So, work with others to achieve a goal, share ideas, give a hand! The results will worth making a change. But teamwork is not just about work and school, it is about your spare time too: socialize, interact, be part of a group! What would sports be without it? Or how would any humanitarian action be successful? Maybe there is some truth in those old sayings…

7. Golden-fronted Bowerbird

One of the most impressing mating rituals belongs to a species of birds from the rain forest and concerns a special care for beauty, called the Golden-fronted Bowerbird. Every male builds some kind of presentation tent where he puts all the beautiful things he can find especially blue things and arranges them so that they will attract a female. The ladies come, analyze what they see and many times are not satisfied so that the males have to start working again until it’s perfect.

Beauty- it fascinates each and every one of us, we have to admit it. Finding and admiring the real beauty can be one of the most amazing things to do. The beauty is everywhere, in nature, in the people around us, in our homes. Becoming more attentive to details, having higher standards, improving the way you see the world is what you should do. Beauty is not a shallow value as long as it is appreciated correctly. Find the beauty around you and enjoy it, learn to smile at all the small things around you like a walk in the evening while the sun sets.

Animals react the way their instinct and senses dictate and still prove to be remarkable role models. Finding the right value in them and using it in real life is what makes people remarkable.

Get Most Out of Life: Be Decisive!

Undecisive
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Our lives are dominated by strings of events, that revolve all around us, as a consequence of anything we do, be it quiting your job for another, taking your daughter to school or just walking on the street. Every kind of activity or action that we undertake, no matter how small or big, has an effect on us and on the people around us. Every action, has a reaction.This unfortunately brings with it a lot of pressure, for most individuals, when faced with a more or less important decision. Fear of consequences clouds their judgment and they soon begin to become indecisive.

Decisions make you powerful, active, focused, and ready to face your day. Indecision makes you procrastinate, lose initiative, gumption, and get up and go. So, in truth, making a good decision isn’t necessarily conditioned by outside variables, like money, other people or events and so on, but rather by your ability to be decisive.

There’s no real secret to becoming a decisive person, after all it’s just a mindset. So if you put your mind to it and keep telling yourself you know what you want from life, you’ll soon start becoming a more decisive person. However, here’s a few tips and techniques that will help you overpass the hump of uncertainty and make you a true leader of your life.

1. Think fast. When faced with a decision, do it fast. Don’t think too much about what might happen after you undertake the respective action. What’s done is done. Small decisions like choosing what to eat for dinner shouldn’t take more then a minute. If you’re faced with a major decision you shouldn’t take more then 10 minute to make it or 1-2 hours when you have to do some information gathering. The more you do it, the faster you’ll become and the more decisive you’ll grow.

2. Believe. Keep telling and believe in yourself that you’re a decisive individual. Don’t denigrate yourself for being indecisive. As long as you have faith in yourself and in your actions, you’ll be able to do things a lot better, and if you happen to fail, you won’t feel too bad about what happens next, because you already minimized the consequences in your head when you took the decision.

3. Be instinctual. Some decisions, no matter how much you think them over, can’t seem to reach a favorable end. The longer you think about them, the more problems and obstacles you’ll find in your path. This is where you have to turn to your natural instincts, to guide you through. Let your gut speak out.

4. Get out of the box. Forget about your preconceptions and fixed ideas about anything in particular. Clarity is extremely important for taking a good decision, so keeping an open mind is a great way to put things into perspective and in term make the best the decision.

5. Don’t be afraid. Earlier in the article I mentioned that the biggest cause for indecisiveness is fear of the consequences. While having reserves before taking an important decision is very natural you shouldn’t let them overwhelm you. Don’t be afraid to make a decision and learn to embrace failure as much as success.

6. Visualize the outcome. Look at yourself from the outside and picture you as a decisive person. How would I act then? Also when faced with a decision, visualize yourself in the completion process and then in the aftermath. Then start asking yourself, like you’ve already taken the decision and completed the task: was it worth my time? did the benefits outweigh the disadvantages? and so on.

7. Be prepare to screw up. Sometimes life takes us into directions we’d wish we never went. A thought of going back in time and taking the road on the left, always crosses our minds, but what’s done is done and you should keep it that way. Such things in life are inevitable, so the first thing you should do when it happens, is not to feel bad about it. Just look at it as a life experience, as a step up in your progression towards a complete life. There’s no such thing as a good or bad decision.

8. Act. Don’t sit on your butt all day, thinking how to act. Be proactive, take the initiative and act without fear of the outcome. Any decision is better then none at all.