The blue pill or the red pill? – how to handle hospital life

Now will you ever rest your head?
You end up feeling mostly dead,
Pretending you’re the last one,
Hiding with your eyes shut tightly,
all the way to the hospital.
~The used~

I’ve recently found myself in the very unpleasant situation of spending quite some time in a hospital bed. As most of you must know, this can prove to be one of the must difficult moments in your life as there are a lot of things that can literally drive you insane. So this is why after getting here you must make a choice; we’re going to picture it metaphorically. Let’s say you can do 1 in 2 things: either take the blue pill, relax (as much as possible) and try to handle things as well as you can, being positive about it or take the red pill and just make everyone’s life, including yours, harder. So learn to take the blue pill!

1. Optimism

  • The red pill- having a serious condition can prove to be challenging and difficult not to mention extremely unpleasant. It’s very easy to become nervous and to get angry from virtually everything or even worse, to become depressed. So you can end up spending your time reproaching things to everyone including yourself or just counting the minutes until you can finally go home. Falling into a total apathy or becoming a shrew will help nobody so try not to fall into this trap no matter how easy it is.
  • The blue pill- Remember that you are there to receive treatment and to recover so in the end it’s for your own sake. Keep in touch with friends and family and remember that they may feel even worse than you by knowing your situation. Keep them positive too by smiling, being active and telling funny stories about all the odd things you came across in the hospital: it does miracles! Always keep in mind the fact that soon you will be healthy again and try to fill your time so that you will not find yourself looking at your watch continuously. Keep your mind positive by reading, talking to the people around you or having short walks if possible.
  • 2. Interacting with people

  • The red pill- suddenly finding yourself in the same room with other people and losing much of your intimacy can prove to be rather tricky especially as many can prove to have very unpleasant habits and reactions. You can end up easily having fights over nothing or you can just as well become isolated from them. Your neighbor eats all night long, some other one has a poor hygiene, one of the patients has noisy children who come visit way too often…As your patience is put to the test you will do nothing but to increase the gravity of your situation as everything will seem unbearable to you. You can keep the others awake so that you can read as a revenge, but that will do no good for anyone.
  • The blue pill– none of us is perfect and you may just as well annoy the others with your behavior. So learn to accept them and that might easily make the situation better. Usually people are very talkative in the hospitals mostly because they tend to be bored. Starting a conversation can be very easy. Talk about your family, work, whatever makes you feel good talking about. Sharing is also something that makes hospital life pleasant, however don’t stare at your neighbor’s cookies and don’t try to convince a patient to eat something if he or she is on a diet- your good intentions might not turn out very well in this case. Respect the others and their condition and you will receive the same treatment. Giving a hand can also be great for your state of mind!
  • 3. The doctors and the nurses

  • The red pill- as you don’t seem to recover as fast as you would want to, you start making suggestions and giving all kinds of indications. Complaining all the time and asking for special attention won’t work as you are not the only patient in the hospital. By making them stressed you will only make more problems and even if they are professionals they can easily become a little subjective when it comes to you. They are humans after all! Asking questions is very good but exaggerating and putting their knowledge to the test won’t work. Also if you are not satisfied it’s very easy to start gossiping and talking behind the doctors’ back. But words can travel fast…
  • The blue pill- be polite, interested in your treatment and always ready to give a hand. A “Thank you!” from time to time is something that should become a personal rule to follow. Don’t lie about your condition and follow the rules, there is a point for them! Whenever something is not clear ask- not everyone has thorough medical knowledge and it’s not a shame to want to know more.
  • Either way, you should relax, as relaxing helps the body fight the disease and try to not make a tragedy out of it, as it helps you more than everyone else; when you are finally back home remember to take the blue pill from time to time- a good state of mind, politeness and better social skills can do nothing but to help you!

    Insomnia? just a bad dream!

    I’m wide awake in my kitchen
    It’s dark and I’m lonely
    Oh, if I could only get some sleep
    Creeky noises make my skin creep
    I need to get some sleep
    I can’t get no sleep….
    ~Faithless~

    Tired of staring at the ceiling for endless hours night after night? Frustrated because others can sleep without any problem? You’re definitely not alone as more and more people suffer from sleep disorders. Insomnia is caused most of the times by unhealthy habits which affect people’s ability to sleep. So this is why a few changes in your schedule should be enough to sleep again and to be more healthy and productive.
    – Create a sleep schedule in order to wake up at about the same hour everyday. Waking up one day at 6 AM and the second day at 12 AM will do nothing but to affect you in a negative way. If your work schedule is flexible choose an hour to wake up and this will also allow you to do other things around the house or just to spend more time doing something pleasant.
    Don’t stay in bed more than you used to before having insomnia! This way your body will not be tired and it will be more and more difficult to fall asleep. Choose an activity which is not too challenging instead such as walking, or going out with your friends. Continue reading

    Here we are! – how to live in a collectivity

    People, when things go wrong
    As they sometimes will
    And the road you travel
    It stays all uphill
    Let’s work together
    ~Canned heat~

    Spending six or seven hours five days a week in a group of 20 or even more people can prove to be a little tricky sometimes as conflicts become something regular. Especially as we grow up, they tend to become more complex and relations can be easily influenced in a negative way. Of course, sometimes you feel that you can’t take it any more. It’s normal, but remember that by having the right attitude from the beginning, you will find the hours you spend with the others pleasant and even relaxing.
    1. When you are new in a group the best thing you can do is to meet the others, begin a conversation and introduce yourself. Still, try not to exaggerate and try to spend the first days noticing what the others like end dislike before getting too personal. Try to learn something about them before offending anyone by mistake. Try to keep the conversation neutral!
    2. Everyone has their own role in a group. One can be the clown, another one the hard-worker and so on. Try to be as balanced as possible and to create an image of yourself. You mustn’t expose very much, but try not to create a fake image of yourself; it won’t work. If you are not the party starter don’t try to act like one, it’s ok. This is who you are and you should not try to change it or lie about it.
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    Fight Your Phobias!

    You’re so afraid of what people might say
    But that’s okay cuz you’re only human
    You’re so afraid of what people might say
    But that’s okay you’ll soon get strong enough
    ~Nelly Furtado~

    Many people complain about having a phobia, but in reality, what they experience is a simple fear caused by the preservation instinct. A phobia is much more than this, as it’s irrational and can affect one’s life completely. But no matter how severe a phobia is, it’s not impossible to cure. However, this is not a matter of medication, as their effect lasts only for a short period of time, it’s a matter of will and of knowing yourself.
    Although there are strange fears such as the fear of snow, clocks, numbers or sitting which are less frequent, other fears such as the fear of being ridiculed, social phobias or the fear of failure can be found in many individuals.

    The Fear of Crowds And Open Spaces (Agoraphobia)

    It is experienced by quite a lot of people and even more claim to feel bad physically in such situations. It manifests itself through nausea, sickness and trembling but also psychologically through an unexplainable and very strong fear of traveling alone in a plane or bus or even of crossing a street or a bridge. Does this situation sound familiar? Don’t be ashamed! Therapy is not for mad people so don’t be afraid to talk to a specialist as soon as you’ve acknowledged you have a problem. Moreover, don’t let the others pamper you, so try to travel alone, at first on small distances and then more and more. It’s not impossible to fight your own fears! This fear can also be caused by childhood experiences so finding the exact cause can also help! Continue reading

    Monday again? No problem!

    Every other day, every other day,
    Every other day of the week is fine, yeah
    But whenever Monday comes, but whenever Monday comes
    You can find me cryin’ all of the time
    ~The Mamas and the Papas~

    We all hate Mondays, that’s a fact. Just thinking about this day can cause head aches to any student or to anyone having a job. Maybe this is why this day is the least productive of the whole week. So how about a little change of attitude in order to be more successful?

    1. Remember that it’s all in your mind and the way you see this situation affects all your behavior. So don’t spend your Sunday thinking about the fact that you will start work again, that you’ll have classes and that it will be hard to do everything! Be positive and optimistic about it as there is nothing particularly scary about a Monday.

    2. Get yourself a head start – knowing that the second part of any Friday isn’t too productive you could use it to make a plan for the following week so that your Monday morning will be less agitated. Then, by cleaning your desk and arranging your papers you will find your Monday start a lot easier and you will improve your work. Continue reading

    Smoke free! 10 ways of giving up smoking for good!

    Nightmares made of hash dreams, the devil in my shoes
    What have I done wrong?
    Yeah nothing can go right with me it must be that i’ve been smoking too
    Long
    ~Placebo~

    What makes you start smoking again? Anger? Stress? Boredom? Tiredness? The first two are universally known to make people return to this bad habit. Each of these make you want to kill for a smoke, but cigarettes do nothing but to increase stress and to affect your health and even social relations. Learn to handle these situations and not to turn to cigarettes!
    1. Take care of yourself! By depriving your body of smoking, assure that it won’t suffer because of this. Try to have a balanced diet and choose healthy, nutritious food. Ask a specialist about what you should eat and about what you should avoid. Fresh fruits and vegetables should help you the most! Give good quality “fuel” to your body and drink more water to be hidrated. Avoid drinks which have too many chemicals as you need to purify your organism. Take vitamins as nicotine has emptied your body of nutrients, in order to recover faster. Still, ask your doctor for a recommendation!
    2. Give up caffeine! Drinking coffee in a time like this might make you nervous even angry so try reducing the quantity of coffee you drink every day. Even a simple coke can have unsuspected effects so you may even give up on it totally for a while. These two habits are usually associated so you may gain a lot more by forgetting about both of them!
    3. Take a warm bath! It’s an excellent way to relax and to get rid of stress. Add just a little salt and it will be perfect! Relax and think about something pleasant. A little time spent like this everyday may bring even more benefits to both your body and mind.
    4. Have a massage! If you can’t go to a specialist or you don’t have the time for that ask a friend or your partner to help you with that. You will also have time for a little chat and you will forget about how much you need a cigarette. Keep this habit in the future too as it’s pleasant and useful. Remember: even 15 minutes can do miracles! Continue reading

    The best decision for both – choosing the perfect dog for you

    Oh lord it’s a dogs life
    Oh lord it’s a dogs life dogs life
    I’m feeling Kinda Irie
    It’s bubbling inside me
    Straight up it’s a dogs life
    ~Kottonmouth kings~

    Dogs seem to be the perfect animals for every family so maybe it’s time to bring one to your home too! By simply following a few pieces of advice you will get a perfect companion for you and the ones you love.

  • Talk to a veterinarian
  • A specialist can give you the best information you need about certain breeds and can help you make the best choice without being subjective as dog breeders can prove to be. You can also find out about what diseases the breed is most likely to have, and how to prevent and protect against them.

  • Ponder family’s daily routine.
  • Are you or is someone else home frequently enough to feed, walk and take care of the pet? That’s not even half of it – a dog needs to feel loved and wanted, and they’re really dependent on their feelings. Also, think if the animal has enough place to run, and do all those things that if absent, make the dog unhappy.

  • Think about your family, and talk to them!
  • If there are small children in your home, choose a breed that is known to be fond of children preferably not a very large one. Check for allergies, aggressivity, among others. Also, a surprise puppy can be just fantastic, the best present in the world! But if somebody is allergic, or doesn’t like puppies… wouldn’t be that much of a surprise Continue reading

    How to spend less on food when traveling

    I need another point of view
    Someplace I’ve never seen
    Keepin’ my eyes wide open
    Goin’ where I’ve never been
    So take me to the highway
    Take me far from here.
    ~Doobie brothers~

    Most travelers discover that the money they give on food may be a lot more than they would have expected. However, these expenses can be easily reduced with a little experience and by following some simple steps.
    1. Get to know your destination very well before actually taking a decision. Only in very expensive regions it worth taking food from home.
    2. Bring nutritive drinks and multivitamins with you as a supplement for a poor diet. They will help you a lot, don’t take very much space and will give you more energy.
    3. Bring your favorite condiments to add them on the food you buy from a store in order to make it tastier and to feel more like home. Continue reading

    8 DONT’s at a business party

    Whoa! I feel nice, like sugar and spice
    I feel nice, like sugar and spice
    So nice, so nice, I got you
    ~James Brown~

    A party at your working place might very well turn out to be really boring. However, it can also be a very good opportunity to have fun or it can be very useful – creating new relationships with coworkers is almost always a good thing. Still, be careful about having TOO much fun; you don’t want to be that drunk guy dancing on the table, nor the girl stripping by the boss! If you’re not sure what to do in order to avoid embarrassing situations, these following tips are definitely a good start:

    1. Don’t drink too much!

    Photo by steele_chas

    Alcohol will make you lose your inhibitions and will change your behavior. Even if you think it can’t affect you a glass of wine or a cocktail should be enough. Remember, perception is everything so you should not create a bad impression about yourself!

    2. Be careful about interactions!

    Even if a party might show you another side of your colleagues, try to ignore the new feelings as they can lead to disaster! Also try not to act provocative in order to be respected. If you’re in a … really good relationship with a coworker of the opposite sex, displaying yourself at your workplace is not something you’d want to do, especially at a party.

    3. Don’t wear provocative clothes!

    If you would not wear something on another occasion then don’t wear it now. Be elegant and try to attract attention only by your style and not by bad taste. Also, especially for women, provocative clothes at business parties always create an unwanted image for you. Continue reading

    Stuck together- how to get along with your roomate

    So happy together
    How is the weather
    So happy together
    We’re happy together
    ~The Turtles~

    A roommate can be two things: your best friend or your worst enemy. When things go bad it’s quite easy to blame everything on him or her and their behavior. But could it be that simple?
    Following a few simple rules will ensure you a good relationship with the person you are living with even if you will not become best friends.
    1. Try to get in touch with your roommate before school begins even if you don’t know him or her and try to decide together what each of you should bring. It might be hard but try to adapt to your roommate’s wishes and decisions as much as you can.
    2. Remember the fact that appearance might deceive you so try not to jump to a decision as soon as you see him or her!
    3. Decide together about the way you would like your room to be like and try to reach an agreement about it which will be satisfying for both of you. Continue reading