Shyness? no longer a problem!

“Talk to me, show some pity
You touch me in many, many ways
But I’m shy can’t you see”

~Sonata arctica “Shy”~

Have you given up many times because of your shyness? Have you ever lost opportunities because you were simply afraid to ask? About 80% of us would probably answer “yes” as a study shows. However, this fear of attracting attention can be healed by having a strong will and by understanding that it is impossible to succeed without the other’s help.
A shy person can be seen by others as boring, unfriendly or weak so why not change your attitude to prove them that you can be a great friend and a valuable workmate? Get out of your shell!
1. It might be hard at first but try to change your way of thinking into a positive one. Be relaxed and even if someone makes you feel uncomfortable try to start a conversation. Continue reading

3 easy ways to make boring activities fun or useful

‘Cause we were never being boring
We had too much time to find for ourselves
And we were never being boring
We dressed up and fought, then thought: “Make amends”
Pet Shop Boys ~Being Boring~

In life, you do things you don’t want to; things you may find useless, unpleasant, or just boring. You may also waste a lot of time when you’re say, taking the bus to school or work, or when you’re cooking or just don’t have what to do at work; and you probably sometimes feel like you just don’t have enough time to finish your work and really need to relax and unwind. The thing is that you have two problems which could solve each other! Sounds really weird, but filling these ‘gaps’ in your day to day time is really important, but mostly underestimated. Here’s what you can do.

1. Take an mp3 player (ipod) or a good book with you.
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Or both! Put them in a small backpack or even in your pocket, it won’t really bother you. This way, whenever you’re don’t have anything really important to do, like cooking or just typing you can start listening to music. Whenever you’re in the bus, you can start reading, or during the lunch break after you’ve eaten. Continue reading

6 Habits To Avoiding And Overcoming Procrastination

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Try to put me in a room
Distraction less
(Everything is everything)
Spare me from worse
In the studio, I would finally burn
(All the time is all you got)
Tempted to work
~Amy Winehouse~

In short procrastination is a habit if you will, a very bad habit, that consists in putting off something for the next day. Procrastination is to blame for most of our productivity problems and yet it seems that very few people actually do something about it. And this doesn’t solely apply to your personal life either, it just as well happens in your career as well, because chances have it you’ll behave the same way at work as well. Missed opportunities, frenzied work hours, stress, overwhelm, resentment, and guilt are just a few consequences.

I’m pretty sure most of you’ve told yourselves at least once in your life I’ll do it tomorrow, I have the time or tomorrow’s another day. Ok, that’s true, but to paraphrase a common proverb, why put put for tomorrow, what you can do today? It’s safe to say that everybody knows that procrastination is hazardous, but what compels people, like you or myself, to do it? There’s a few reasons why people result to postponements like fear of the unknown, fear of change, perfectionism, fear of failure, disorganization and so on, but probably the most common reason is … laziness. That’s right folks laziness can really be a bugger, some go as far as saying it’s a terrible sickness, I personally think it’s all just a psychological issue.

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Use colours to change your life!

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“Yellow is the colour of my true love’s hair
In the mornin’ when we rise,
In the mornin’ when we rise,
That’s the time, that’s the time,
I love the best.
Blue’s the colour of the sky
In the mornin’ when we rise,
In the mornin’ when we rise.
in the mornin’ when we rise”
~Donovan~

Even since the Middle Age sorcerers and healers would use colours to treat all kinds of
deseases. Nowadays, modern doctors admit the fact that colours have a strong impact on
human mind, and by this a strong impact on one’s health or mood.
Some colours stimulate the body’s biological activity while others slow it down. By knowing what each colour really does it is simple to change your life in a simple and also pleasant way.
So what colour should you choose?

RED This colour is associated vith energy and power, thus having a stimulating effect. It
can cure your sadness and it can fight the negative emotions. Red can stimulate the internalorgans and the muscle activity especially the feet. This colour increases blood pressure andactivates your breathing, giving a sensation of heat.
So bring red to your life! Try to wear something red: a shirt, a scarf, anything. It is also useful to have a bright-coloured cup too. Continue reading

Flowers – simple way to make your life more beautiful

So when I’m crying alone
Yeah, when I’m cold as a dying stone
Grow me a garden of roses
Paint me the colors of sky and rain

~Poets of the fall – Roses~

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Many of our male readers know that flowers are useful – best present someone could give ( flowers never get old fashion) and they are Continue reading

3 ways to experience art therapy

This is all so beautiful
But how much of this will really be
Enough to keep me on my feet
~Rachael Lampa – The Art~

Art therapy is a form of expressive therapy that uses art materials, combining traditional psychotherapeutic theories and techniques with a subtler, more modern way of getting rid of your psychological and even physical problems. Also it’s a favorite of more and more people because you can do it at home, with your friends or family or alone, it’s fun and you train certain skills. It’s especially good for teenagers, people in their 40s, junkies and really stressed out people, but it has shown incredible results for just about everybody who tried it.

  • Painting
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    Image by Petra
    The point of it is not directly to paint, but rather to know yourself better and to understand your most inner feelings, in a liberating and fun gesture. It doesn’t matter if you can’t paint or never painted at all, the only important thing is to be yourself and to try to express what you feel through lines, shapes and colours. You don’t need words to express yourself, and this is a great example. After you’ve finished a painting, take a look at it and say out loud what you think it means; then take a small break and think if it actually means that in your case. Continue reading

    More spare time! – how to improve your schedule

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    “Relax, take it easy
    For there is nothing that we can do.
    Relax, take it easy
    Blame it on me or blame it on you.”
    ~Mika~

    I am sure most of you reading this article found themselves at least once in the situation of not having enough spare time. Classes, endless hours spent everyday at work and then home sweet home…or maybe not. As soon as you return your phone starts ringing. When did you last do something just for your own entertainment? If the answer is “a long time ago” it is a clear sign that you must change your routine. And it’s not hard at all!

    STEPS
    1. Decide what your priorities are. Each morning create a schedule for the day in each you have settled some time for yourself. Do your best to stick to this schedule!
    2. Try to become more organized and to improve your time management.
    3. Keep an agenda of everything you do. See where you spend most of your time and decide on what you can change. It is also a method to become more efficient!
    4. Try to choose a certain order in which you will handle your errands. Try to solve everything at once in order not to waste time returning to town to buy something you’ve forgotten. Try to shop on the Internet as much as you can.
    5. Hire a maid or a gardener if you afford one in order to save more time. A few more hours for yourself can prove priceless!
    6. Make technology your friend. Use the cell phone, the e-mail and the Internet as much as you can to gain time and also to become more efficient.
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    5 tricks to avoid a couple fight

    I’ll admit I’m wrong if you’d tell me
    I’m so sick of fights I hate them
    Lets start this again for real
    Blink 182 ~ Always ~

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    Well we’ve all had our share of couple fights, for various reasons; some end peacefully, but in most cases the outcome is not good at all. So why not avoid these fights, when possible? The most concentrated way of putting this is: speak your mind but listen to his/her point of view too and release the negative energy without doing things you will most definetly regret afterwards. But since things are often much harder, I’m gonna try and put this in a simpler and detailed way. Continue reading

    Nothing can bring me down! how to be optimistic

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    “it’s just me and my puppy
    together were so very happy
    and a bit of world won’t bring us down
    i’m looking on the bright side of things”
      ~Lissie~

    A study made by the University of Yale shows that optimism can grow your life expectancy with at least seven years. Optimism decreases the effects stress has on people and improves their balance, both physically and mentally. And changing your mood is not difficult at all!
    1. Chat! Gossip can prove to be very useful in some situations. Chatting with your friends and family helps you create a “social web”. Studies show that sociable people are more likely to live happily ever after. Phone chats have useful effects on brain activity and blood circulation. A long-lasting friendship can worth as much as not smoking or being active. It’s also important to meet your friends in person. Phone calls are useful, but not enough!
    2. Dear diary…The benefits of keeping a diary are well-known. It’s important not only to talk about what makes you unhappy, but also about the good moments, even about the small pleasures of life. Studies show that the people who are grateful for everything that happens to them are more satisfied and tend to be physically stronger. You can write in your diary once a week or just from time to time. What is important is not to regard this as another duty.
    3. Be generous! Generosity increases the level of happiness hormones. You don’t have to give valuable items, just make unplanned surprises to acquaintances and to strangers. Offer your bus seat or give some food to a hungry homeless man. You will feel much better about yourself and the others’ gratefulness will make you feel appreciated. “Generosity has therapeutical effects” as scientists often claim. So why not help yourself by helping the others?
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    4 dangerless ways to get the adrenaline rush

    Escaping from the routine can be quite a drag, but if your life is filled with monotony, then fear not! There are many things you can do, and quite easy to; here’s a list of useful tips. But still, what if you want more? If you want that adrenaline rush, or just the feeling that you’re doing something out of the ordinary, that’s nowhere near as hard as it seems, and it could just be what you need to spicen up your life. Finding a way to meet your adrenaline rush can also be very useful if you’re inclined towards gambling or other dangerous stuff, which you can avoid if you just do these things, as you will no longer fill the thrill need.

  • Rollercoaster, stadium, or concert
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    This is the easiest, ‘lightest’, and softest thing you can do, which can give you a certain special feeling and even the adrenaline rush you’re after! Sure, it’s not the most dangerous of things, but if you don’t wanna do any of the following, than this is for you!

  • Start doing an extreme sport
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    But make it a known one, because these ones are way more safe. You’re safer paragliding than you are driving your car. You can also bungee jump, parachute, skateboard, snowboard, biking, sky diving, surfing and even climbing. Chose what suits you better, find a professional where needed and just go with the flow.

  • Offroad or circuit drive
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    Photo by Tijflex2
    Offroad driving is the bomb for more and more people all around the world, especially if they own a 4×4 car. If you don’t, you can just use your car or rent one or go to a special track. Just be sure you don’t wind up in some dump where nobody can help you. Also, although it’s really not cheap, a whole lot of people love to go to a circuit and drive a car or even a motorcycle there. But you have to know your way behind the wheel to do that. But it’s worth it; at those speeds, you definetly get what you paid for.

  • Flirting and sex
  • . The social activities are often underestimated when it comes to adrenaline rush. But sex is undoubtely the greatest thing you can do if you’re a thrill junkie; try with same or different person, in different places and even in public. Just be sure to be safe, otherwise it may turn into a really extreme sport. Until you get to that stage, flirting is the thing to do. Just get caught in the game you play.
    There’s pretty much something for everybody in that list, you just need to chose what gets you going. Still, for a dose of alternative risk taking, just buy something at ebay 🙂